One of the biggest obstacles to reaching your goals is falling back into the past habits and routines that drove you to a place of wanting to change.
We've been told time and time again that goal setting and having a game plan to work towards is an essential step to making long-lasting changes in your health and fitness journey.
Don't get us wrong, it is SO important! However, if you don't address your current mindset and the underlying beliefs of what you think you are capable of achieving, chances are, you're going to end up right back where you started.
Luckily for us, our Mindset Coach, Alexis, is here to help! So sit down and take notes on her wise words about staying accountable and making long-lasting lifestyle changes.
Take it away girlfriend!
Hey angels, it's time to talk about accountability!
Accountability should be the foundation for every task or goal that you set out to achieve. Knowing what is within your control, and more importantly knowing what to do about it will be a game changer not only in your health and fitness journey, but in your life.
If you can put the focus entirely on your actions and not on anything else around you, you are guaranteed to make some positive changes.
STEP 1 - TAKE OWNERSHIP FOR YOUR JOURNEY
The first step is to be prepared to do this journey on your own.
If other people join you — that's amazing! But while it definitely helps, every time you put the fate of your goals in the hands of someone else (i.e. a training partner or your family member who said they would help you stay accountable) you're at the mercy of someone else, and you're no longer take full responsibility for your own trajectory. This isn't acceptable, especially for long-term success.
From now on, you need to be DETERMINED that no matter who is with you or not, no matter who drops or ‘lets you down’, you will not put the blame or responsibility on anyone but yourself.
The more control and ownership you have over your goals — the more likely you are to do it. The more you expect other people to help or keep you accountable — the less action you will take, and the more upset and powerless you will feel when it doesn’t work out.
STEP 2 - RAISE YOUR STANDARDS
Now that you are 100% responsible, and not going to wait for anyone or anything for you to be able to start, now's the time to raise your standards.
Look at who you are now and how you think about yourself. This is a summation of all your old self beliefs and thought patterns, and the most dominant thoughts you've held for yourself have now manifested as your current reality.
What you think you are capable and deserving of, or how you think you should be treated by yourself and others will always come to life. If you keep thinking the way you have always thought, you will keep living the same way and nothing will change. End of story.
BUT — if you're prepared to raise your standards about what you are capable of and deserving of, then sooner than later your life will begin to reflect that.
Remember, your standards are YOURS to set, not what others think of you.
STEP 3 - THINK SMART
Every morning remind yourself, “I am a summation of my most common thoughts." Why? Because you need to remind yourself to be selective with what your dominant thoughts will be, as those are the thoughts that become your belief system.
Right now, I want you to pull out a pen and paper and write all your current goals and important to-do's down.
After you've made a list, picture someone who achieves what they set out to do — someone who manages to stay consistent, be accountable for their actions, and pick themselves back up when they fall.
Then write down what you would imagine what their self-talk and beliefs would be. Get creative and write it all down. Now put THAT list of beliefs next to your bed.
This is now YOUR new belief system, your new self-talk. Every time you feel let down by a person, or something's gotten in the way of your training or nutrition, ask yourself "how can I own this situation?"
You can only change if you can identify where you can take responsibility or ownership over something. If you don’t take control of your actions and hold your power, you will always feel that things are happening TO you and that you're just reacting to the situation.
I want you to know it doesn’t have to be that way.
STEP 4 - YOUR TASK
This week I want you to set yourself up with a new morning routine that sets you up for the most productive day possible. The start of your day really determines how your day will pan out.
Then write out your plan for the day. Read that list, twice if necessary.
Drink some water, and take a few mindful minutes to meditate or exercise without being distracted or checking your phone (you have all day to do that).
If you can teach yourself that the morning is yours, you'll begin to take more control over every aspect of your day and life.
Start now, don’t hesitate, and don’t procrastinate.
Mindset Coach, Alexis xx